Dealing with Conflict
I used to walk around with so much anger, irritation, and sadness in me. And I was silent about it.
I rarely spoke up and voiced what I needed or what I disagreed with. I kept it all inside.
And no one knew how upset I was.
The problem was, I felt so overwhelmed when I was upset that I just couldn’t get the words out. It was easier to just let things go.
But I could only do this for so long and then I would explode.
Or I would just disappear- I would end a relationship, I would quit a job, giving no explanation.
It was a hard lesson for me to learn that when I kept this all inside that I was impacting my relationships in a negative way. I believed that if I kept my thoughts and needs to myself that it would be good for my relationships. But it never worked.
If we are mad but don’t want to address it, we are likely to do one of three things:
- Avoid the person
- Censor your responses to the conversation so you can avoid the topic that you are upset about
- Don’t open up about anything of substance and the relationship slowly disappears
It took me a long time to realize that there really is a downside when we go quiet instead of saying what we need.
So I taught myself how to deal with conflict in a way that matched my quietness.
As an introvert, it is really important to learn the skills to deal with conflict.
I taught myself how to stay calm and say what I needed.
The Unexpected Benefits:
As I started to speak up and say what I needed, my confidence grew. I started feeling better about myself, even started to like myself.
And my relationships improved. I stopped snapping at my kids so much, I stopped avoiding my partner when I was upset.
And I started laughing more, feeling more joy.
This is all due to not keeping so much inside. The more that I shared (even the hard stuff) the more connected I felt to my partner,my children, friends, and at work.
This is why I created this course. Being a quiet person doesn’t mean we have to suffer.
What you will learn:
- Why introverts struggle with conflict
- How to overcome self-doubt
- How to overcome constantly worrying about hurting people’s feelings
- The step-by-step process on how to deal with conflict